Before Registering and Posting, Please Read These Rules: You must be at least 18 years of age to register and post here. By registering, you agree that you are 18. If we discover you are under the age of 18, you will be banned until your 18th birthday. The RoE (Rules of Engagement) The Rules of Engagement Here’s what I ask of commenters, and what I will do as well. All of these guidelines are subject to mods’ judgment and are not up for debate or argument. And this might seem a little draconian, but it’s what I’ve been running with for two years now and only a handful of people have ever run afoul of anything here. Seriously, most people will never need to worry about this stuff. It’s just here so I can refer people to it in case they need it, and because I think that setting expectations clearly leads to a better community experience for us all. 0. Be excellent to each other. Don’t be gratuitously mean. Don’t snipe at people who aren’t causing you grief. Don’t attack people personally. Don’t tone troll or sincerity troll anybody. Don’t make assumptions about people, accuse them of lying or stupidity, or talk over them. Don’t use diminuitives or overly-intimate terms like “baby” or “honey” to try to cow anybody. While you’re here, you’re a guest in my virtual home, and I’ll treat you as such–and expect you to behave as such. (Cussing is completely fine, just don’t direct it at any other commenters.) 1. Don’t proselytize. There are lots of spaces for Christians or other theists who want to preach. This is not one of them. R2D is not your personal witnessing ground full of unwashed heathens to convert. If you refuse to stop proselytizing, then you’ll be given an invitation to find somewhere else to showboat. That includes but is not limited to: telling dissenters you’ll “pray for them” or that you “feel sorry for them;” threatening dissenters with supernatural or earthly retribution for noncompliance; telling dissenters that your deity loves them or informing them that they just did something/everything all wrong; retelling some Christian urban legend or talking point; reciting Bible verses like they are magic spells. 2. If you make a claim, you will be expected to back up that claim with objective, peer-reviewed evidence or to retract it. I don’t care if you’re talking about faith healing or homeopathy. R2D is a science- and reality-embracing zone. If you can’t back up a claim with credible support, then do what I do and don’t make that claim in public. 3. This is a safe space. That means everything you think it means. Please take misogyny, racism, poor-shaming, fat-shaming, anti-LGBTQ bigotry, ability-shaming, and mental-illness stigmatizing elsewhere. (That means no R-word, racial slurs, or sexist slurs, ever, no matter how justified someone thinks they are or how deserving one’s target seems.) Please be patient with those who innocently err in how they word something, and if you’re on the receiving end of a gentle correction, please be gracious. That includes me, btw. If I mess up, tell me. 4. Don’t lie or troll. If I start thinking you’re just here to get a rise out of people or just yank chains, you’ll be given an invitation to go do that elsewhere. 5. Do not question anybody’s sincerity or concern-troll anybody’s emotional state. If you tell me you were an atheist before conversion, then I’ll give you benefit of the doubt–at least until I know more about how you define atheism (though I don’t promise to find your reasons for converting to be terribly compelling). Likewise, if people tell you they were a sincere Christian before deconverting, then do them the courtesy of believing that they were very sincere (though you, in turn, might not ever approve of their reasons for leaving the religion). In the same way, if someone sounds mad or upset then I’m going to assume that person is mad or upset, but I will do my level best to try to see what that person’s actually trying to say instead of dismissing them on the basis of sounding mad or upset–and I expect others to do the same for me or anybody else who sounds that way. Sometimes it takes anger to get the words out or to make others realize we’re serious. You don’t need to apologize for being angry. 6. Silencing tactics will likewise not be tolerated. A silencing tactic is an attempt to shut someone down without actually addressing what that person’s said by trying to rob that person of their right to speak at all. “Why do you talk about religion so much?” is one silencing tactic non-Christian writers often face, but there are slews of others: “We shouldn’t be divisive.” “You’re taking the focus away from the mission.” “This topic is a waste of time/not what I want you to talk about/not what I personally think is important.” Well, they’re bullshit, and I won’t let them happen here. If someone wants to shut another commenter down, then they need to do it by actually engaging in what was said. Other Rules: - Don't post anything illegal, obviously. Don't post any instructions on getting to said illegal things. This includes copyright material (such as music). Doing so will result in an immediate ban. - Don't post anything you wouldn't want anyone under 18 years of age seeing. We might add an "adult" area of the forum at a later date, but for now, keep your porn and sexting as PM's. - Finally, if you have problems with a member, take it elsewhere. Flame wars and trolling will result in thread locks and temporary cooling off periods for members involved.