A Thought About Love and Feedback

I realized something yesterday: It is not the person performing a loving deed who gets to decide if that deed is actually loving. It is the target of that deed who gets to make that call. The person receiving that deed acts as the referee here. That person’s call trumps whatever the doer of the deed thinks of it. I never learned that truth while I was Christian–and I can see that a lot of Christians today haven’t learned it either.