One of the hardest parts about deconverting out from under a fundagelical marriage was unlearning my indoctrination and re-learning all the rules for how men and women should interact. One of those ideas I had to unlearn was the idea of “dying to yourself.” But it was the one I Read more
I checked the news today and got this very clear feeling that my blog feels like it writes itself. I’m not kidding. I remember when I was starting the blog I was actually worried maybe I wouldn’t be able to keep momentum after a while, but that fear quickly evaporated Read more
(Content warning: lots and lots of sexism directed at Yr. Loyal Correspondent, but I’ll spoiler this shiznit now by telling y’all that this unhappy tale ends happily.) When I was very young, I saw how my mom and dad operated as a couple. I saw that my mom worked full-time, Read more
Continuing the long tradition of evangelical urban legends and worn-out tropes in movies*, I’m in Love With a Church Girl offers up a rehashed and cliché-riddled bit of schlock that is “based on a true story,” which means it bears only the faintest hint of a trace of the real story. This movie looks at the topic of mixed-faith relationships–and it does so in quite possibly the most offensive, misogynistic, and insulting ways possible.
Welcome back. BTW, did you know that the Halloween post is where we busted 666 comments? I just thought that was funny. Y’all are the best. Also, remember that “soulmate” stuff I’ve been talking about? Courtney Stodden, a teenaged reality wanna-be star who married a guy in his 50s and Read more
Some time after breaking up with Biff, I ended up in a teeny tiny town in Kansas, where I met and fell head-over-heels in love with a dreamy-eyed young man who taught me what it’s like to be on the receiving end of a spiritual deception.
I’m thankful that apologetics works weren’t anywhere near as numerous as they are today and didn’t hold nearly as much power over Christians’ minds as they do today, when I survey the damage done to recent deconverts by well-meaning family members with the books and videos produced by apologetics authors. Read more
I know I’ve touched on the topic of soulmates before, but I ran across a study the other day that sparked a lot of thinking that I’d like to “just share” with y’all. In my freshman year of high school, my family lived in Mobile, Alabama, a city I absolutely Read more
I had this big long old post I was doing about exactly how my time in the UYC came to an grueling end, but for various reasons (including that Biff is one of those tiresome dipsticks who threatens lawsuits every time he feels slighted), I decided to gloss over a Read more
After Biff figured out that I was quite serious about having deconverted, the bargaining phase of his grief cycle began. It took a little while for me to realize that his goal was nothing less than to get me to step foot back inside a church, with the assumption that Read more